Saturday, 6 October 2012

Create Success Out of Failure. Part 1

Part 1

Most of us have faced failures at some point of life. And we have found that overcome that failure and move on in life so damn difficult. If you have ever faced that kind of situation, you are not alone. We blame it on luck and refuse to dust ourselves off the ground and stand up again. Be it a failed relationship, not getting the right job, not achieving success in business or whatever. But it need not be so.

It does not matter how many times you get knocked down to the ground, what matters, how quickly you get up.

I have gone through this process in life myself and if I may, I would like to share a few thoughts with you as how we can create success out of our failures.

·         Define what we really want to achieve. More often than not, we are thinking too many things and the mind is running in different direction. Sit down in a quiet corner or talk a long walk in park and just ask yourself, what is really important to you. If God was to come down before you, and grant you one last wish with your life, career, relationship, what is it that you would want absolutely. No, want is not the right word, what is that you absolutely need, which will make you happy for the rest of your life. It cannot be 100 other things. It has to be this one and only one thing. See if you can write it down in one sentence.

·         Ask yourself, what you have done to achieve that one absolute thing which will make you happy. Analyze yourself objectively if you can. I know it is easier said than done. But at least make an honest attempt. Are you able to criticize yourself? Do you realize that what you have done so far may not be enough to achieve that goal? Is there any scope for self improvement? Be it getting more education and qualification, exercising more and eating proper diet or anger management. Are you jealous of others? Are you able to love unconditionally? An honest self assessment is almost always the 1st step of changing your life.

·         Accept failures. Honestly. Don’t blame yourself or others for the failure. If you were passed over for a promotion in the office, there could be many reasons. Reason # 1, there are others better qualified than you or Reason # 2, someone played dirty. Reason # n, the boss does not like your perfume or some other silly things. But hey, it is not the end of the world. Don’t blame yourself or someone else. Just accept the fact that it did not happen. Blaming yourself or others for the failures in your life is a negative emotion and is counterproductive. After all , we have one life and we need one happy life. We need a better life, not a bitter life. Accepting failures as it is helps us not to be bitter in life.

(To be continued)

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